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by:
Moralez Valoo

I met a mother with two children and a wonderful husband. The children were well behaved and the husband had supported them throughout their marriage. They had a nice house and enough of everything they needed so they should be very happy, but the lady of the house wasn't.

There aren't too many things that she wanted to do in life and yet she has never done any of them. Why because her family or her husband always had a good reason why not to do them. Here they are:

1. You will never get it to work out.
2. We can't afford to waste money on that or risk losing money on such an idea.
3. We never did anything like that before so why bother now.
4. Your responsibilities and obligations are to your family.
5. No one else is really interested in it.

I said good reasons well to them they were. To me it all means something different. You see she had been there to support them in everything they wanted to try and always felt if it meant something to them then it was worth allowing them to give it a try. If things didn't work out they could always go on from there. See the reasons to me have a different meaning. Maybe to her they meant the same thing.

1. You will never get it to work out. "Well this to me is saying just keep doing what you are doing because you aren't smart enough to do anything else."
2. We can't afford to waste money on that or risk losing money on such an idea. "Well this might be true but on the same basis we took risks when it came to someone else. Am I not worth as much as they are?"
3. We never did anything like that before so why bother now. "True we haven't but we tried other things so what is so different about this except it is my idea, my desire?"
4. Your responsibilities and obligations are to your family. "I agree but then do I not deserve the same. Is there not to be mutual support and respect? If I acted unresponibility or ignored my obligations I could understand, but I have not done that."
5. No one else is really interested in it. "Just because no one else is interested should I just hide part of myself away? I have worked hard at being interested in everything my family members did even if it was something I did not like in the beginning. Why did I do that? It was important to them."

Maybe that isn't what the reasons mean but to me they would be devastating. God created us as individuals with various kinds of strengths and weaknesses. We are placed here on earth to support others in their lives and the others are there to support us. If it is a one way street people kind of exist and never find out what they realy could have done in their life. Those people will likely die wondering why things worked out the way they did and why did they need to be such a failure.

So what should the woman do?
1. She needs to rebuild her faith in God and seek HIs guidance.
2. She should try to find a way to communicate that her dreams and hopes mean a lot to her.
3. She should ask herself if what her family has for her is love and respect or simply a desire to gain what they need from her to become their own success story. (If the last is true I pray that God help her find love and support from friends.)
4. She needs to find herself and be that. God doesn't want us to be someone else. He wants us to be what he created us to be.

I think this story is something we can all learn from. Often times we make choice and decissions based on past experiences. Life should be lived for today not for or because of yesterday. The future will provide its own solution. The more we accept and help others be themselves the more we will be able to accept and love ourselves. Only then can we love others as God loves us. Not only will that be a love of passion but one of acceptance, appreciation, respect, and support.

John Mason said, "You were born an original. Don't die a copy."


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